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January 17, 2007

Nostalgia?

Filed under: Food for thought — B @ 10:35 pm

I try to go home to Bucharest at least once a year.

Anybody who lives away from their home town will know what a typical visit back home is like: staying with mum and dad and seeing as much as possible of grandma; doing a different friends’ round every day; attending at least one big family gathering around a table full of yummy food ; walking around to take in the ever so familiar yet now transformed places of your childhood.

Not only is it a trip from London to Bucharest, it is also a trip from 2007 to the late 80’s and early 90’s.

Last time I went back was in August 2006. My lovely grandma handed me this small transparent plastic bag containing a red piece of cloth. “I thought you might be pleased to see this” she said. What on earth could it be? I quickly took it out and was hit by a rush of nostalgia. I had discovered my equivalent of Proust’s Madeleine! The object in question was this red scarf we used to wear in primary school. It was a symbol of the former PCR (Romanian Communist Party) and I remember being ever so chuffed when chosen to be what they used to call a “pioneer” (term for young communist).

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This particular scarf is from the end of primary school which would explain the emotional hand written messages from long forgotten classmates. I wonder what they all got up to? What are their stories?

This finding prompted me to write a post about life as a child in communist times. Those of you who know me and have heard the stories look away now.

I was born in 1974 when Nicolae Ceausescu’s regime was starting to become increasingly dictatorial. He’d been president for just under 10 years and the obsession with power was getting the better of him. But I was a child growing up in a loving family and never really felt I was missing out on anything at all. Funny thing, human nature: you just adapt to whatever is thrown at you as long as you’re surrounded by love and care.

Rather than unfolding pages and pages of autobiography, I’m going to reveal the 10 things that I feel would help you get a bird’s eye view of what growing up in communism meant. Some of the patterns will not sound unfamiliar to those of you who went to Catholic schools. Just worshipping a different Big Guy.:0)

1) Every day we went to school between the ages of 7 and 14 we had to start the day by singing the national anthem. TREI CULORI CUNOSC PE LUME. We then got on with the classes. And we were blessed with a level of education which I am yet to encounter anywhere in free schools around the world these days. It’s only fair to give credit where it’s due.

2) We were not allowed to communicate with Westerners which would probably explain why I now boast with travels the world over and a considerable network of international friends. You spoke to a foreigner and you were in danger of some infiltrated Securitate plain clothed officer catching you.

3) We would sometimes be summoned to go stand in the city’s big parks for hours on end, so that when Ceausescu passed by our coreographed mass of pupils, we would be asked to clap and cheer. I remember at the time we didn’t see it as exploitation but as a welcome break from normal school routine.

4) We would be entitled to limited amounts of oil, sugar and meat per family per month. Knowing Mr. Costel from one of the state butchers was a great bonus as he would sneak extra chicken out the back door in exchange for a bribe.

5) Most of us studied Russian, which I loved, but many of my colleagues wouldn’t have chosen. I was fortunate in that I later on got a job in Moscow for a good few months and had a ball, making all those hard Russian lessons worthwhile.

6) We had two hours’ TV programmes a day from 8 to 10pm during which we would have the privilege to watch Ceausescu and his wife visiting some heavy industry monster plant; or – if we were lucky – we’d get a North Korean film about young communists and their fight for their utopian views.

7) We were told capitalism was evil yet we all looked to the USA in awe and many of my friends’ parents immigrated in those days in almost life threatening conditions ( on ships, backs of trucks, etc.)

8 ) We saw beautiful churches moved from the front of the street to behind the big tower buildings. They stood for a culture that clashed with Ceausescu’s views of contemporary Romania. Similarly, we saw amazing old buildings brought down to the ground. They were a sign of the past glory of Romanian aristocracy, so they were replaced with grim 10 storey towerblocks instead.

9) We even had our folklore adapted; the vaguest references to old times would be swapped with fresh new ” I like to work in the factory” stock.

10) We were HAPPY. Yes, maybe living in blissful oblivion of what we could have had access to, but as strange as it may sound, I wouldn’t change a thing.

This will put things into perspective. The country’s come a long way and is flying high at the moment. Looking at my shabby red scarf I cannot help smiling at its significance then and now.

If you’re still awake, thank you for reading! :0)

January 13, 2007

Il Postino & Pablo Neruda

Filed under: B recommends — B @ 10:40 pm

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This may come like an obvious one to many of you, lovers of good film. Today’s recommendation / reminder is IL POSTINO. Bear with me, though, as I’m making it a double one. Let me explain.

We watched it on Friday night and what a wonderful film it is! Simple, sweet, sensitive, set against the background of beautifully picturesque Procida island in the south of Italy.

Not only is the film an utter pleasure to watch ( I did have to wipe away a couple of tears…), but I have made a discovery: Pablo Neruda’s poetry. IL POSTINO is about the friendship between a local postman and the exiled Chilean poet Pablo Neruda. Throughout the film and in the extra features, they quoted Neruda’s lyrics and I was hooked! I’m heading down the library and I will take out his 20 POEMS OF LOVE. And I will read poetry again for the first time in over 15 years. I am going to tempt you, too, with a couple of lyrics, maybe I can bring poetry back into your lives.

What can I do? I am a hopeless romantic. Enjoy!

IF YOU FORGET ME

January 7, 2007

Cogito Ergo Sum

Filed under: Food for thought, Funny stuff — B @ 10:01 pm

anim.gifSaturday evening. Nice quiet evening in for amore and me, cooked up a quick pasta with red pesto (you can never go wrong with that) and sat down to watch some TV. Not much on, but eversince I’ve discovered the magic box called Freeview, if nothing else, I managed to broaden the choice of not-so-good films/shows.

So far so good. Ad break comes on and all of a sudden I feel enlightened. “The Sunday Times in collaboration with Mensa brings you the chance to challenge yourself with this interactive DVD quiz”. Hurrah! I love challenging myself with quizzes of the Trivial Pursuit, Who Wants to Be a Millionaire or University Challenge variety. I have this strange tendency to get the so-called difficult questions right and fail on the ones that are considered to be basic.

Before you think I’ve fallen deeply in love with the image in the mirror, let me explain: being foreign, I get questions to do with language, foreign culture, politics, etc. But I know nothing about things like children’s nursery rhymes, the detailed geography of England, the order of the English kings and queens, and so on.

Overall, though, I get above average results. According to the results of my last IQ test I could be an architect or a teacher. Not bad, better start studying for either…

Anyway, this morning I sent a reluctant amore to brave the rain ( “It is good for your cold to get some fresh air”) and get me a copy of The Sunday Times with the promised interactive DVD. It’s called BRAINPOWER – EXERCISE YOUR MIND.

Ladies and gentlemen, you are reading the blog of a person who got 11 out of 25 right. I am depressed. I mean, yes, I got it right that Mandela was released from prison in 1990. And that George Orwell wrote 1984 in 1961, but the rest was a disaster. I could not figure out what number was next in a chain of completely random numbers. Ditto for the letters. As for geometrical shapes that were supposed to come in some sort of logical chain, you can forget about those. The result: I was declared a middleweight brain. A middleweight brain??? Moi? I got so depressed and declared this morning’s purchase of the paper the worst £2 ever invested. Honestly, who do they think they are?

Anyway, I have now calmed down and I am not using all the intellectual words I can think of to impress amore, who was laughing his head off hearing the “wrong answer noise” one too many times…I will have that noise in my head for a while yet….My door buzz sounds a bit like it, maybe I should change it…
Are you into IQ tests?

January 3, 2007

Neighbours

Filed under: Food for thought — B @ 1:35 am

This was going to be a post on resolutions. As timely as it might have been, I’ve seen the topic treated to death. In quite original ways, might I add. And resolutions – I have plenty. Just think they are too boring to share. What are they going to be if not about weight loss, finances, holidays, being a better human being….?!

I was then tempted to talk about Saddam’s hanging and ask for your views, etc. It was news that shocked everyone I’m sure, on more levels than one. I am not however going to talk about that either.

What I would like to talk about briefly is a rarity in London: I actually know and (shock horror!) LIKE my neighbours.

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This is the city in which many turn their newspaper away from you on the tube if you try to read over their shoulder. This is the city where if a spotty fake Burberry-clad teenager shouts super-human decibels down the mobile or bullies the bus driver, nobody would even acknowledge it happened. This is also the city where my previous next door neighbours got married and had a baby and I hadn’t even known the wife was pregnant!

And now, all of a sudden, I am in this unbelievable position of actually counting the people I share my house with amongst my amigos! We watch movies together, we chat, we even go out together. I’ve just come from a dinner downstairs with my lovely neighbours A-L and JC. What a great pasta JC cooked! Bolognese with an exotic touch of cinnamon and cloves. Yum, thanks again, guys!

And E. and P. I’m sure will be lifelong friends. We clicked from day one and I wouldn’t even get mad at them if their washing machine leaked onto my living room ceiling (again). Ask anyone who knows me and they’ll tell you that speaks volumes. I am usually the note-writing type: “Please refrain from leaving my garden in a state after using it for your BBQ!”..”Please do not slam the main door. There are enough cracks in the walls already. Moving your bike out of the main entrance hallway would also be fab! Thank you!”

Come to think of it what a jewel of a neighbour I am….!

I know to many of you this is going to come across as normal, but believe you me, it is not the norm in London. Neighbours are a rare commodity and if the Londoners amongst you have good ones, you, too are lucky.

So, here’s to E, P, AL and JC! A bunch of great guys, please don’t move out of Number 9.

Do you know/put up with/like your neighbours?

December 31, 2006

HAPPY NEW YEAR, LA MULTI ANI, FELIZ ANYO NUEVO!

Filed under: Food for thought — B @ 7:41 pm

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BIG HUG AND ALL THE BEST TO EVERYONE AND HAVE A BLAST IN 2007! LOTS OF LOVE,
B.

December 16, 2006

Most Relaxing Place in My Books

Filed under: B recommends — B @ 9:16 pm

Today’s recommendation is not to do with food or the big screen. At least not directly. Today it’s a place.

A friend talked me into going to ALMERIA two years ago, after she herself had spent a few weeks living there, working on the set of a film. In fact film plays an important part in the life of this otherwise sleepy place. Many of the old Western movies in which we saw Clint strut his stuff were in fact filmed here.

In my view, Almeria is Spain’s best kept touristic secret (until now).

I know at least one person who will blow steam over my revealing this last unspoilt piece of heaven. But I was going through my online albums this afternoon and felt this perfectly qualified for a B recommends.

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So, if you like:

* deserted beaches and unconventional almost lunar-like landscapes

* peace and quiet holidays where not a chirringuito or socked & sandalled tourist is in sight for miles

* good simple food for decent prices

* very good mojitos

* super friendly and chilled out locals

* the chance to spend the day on a sailing boat and go dolphin spotting without it costing an arm and a leg

I suggest you book a (very cheap) flight with Easyjet or Ryanair and get down to Almeria. What my friends and I do is then rent a car and head to a former mining village called Rodalquilar, rent a beautiful whitewashed villa ( for next to nothing) and then explore the vast choice of local beaches. From late April onwards you’re pretty cert to get good weather, better than in England at that time, anuyway. It’s grand! A few piccies to tickle your appetite will follow. If you need any more info, let me know and I’ll be happy to help.990744218205_0_alb.jpg

December 11, 2006

Christmas – What Does It Mean to You?

Filed under: Food for thought — B @ 9:30 pm

christmas-tree4.gifLast night, a cold, dark and rainy Sunday night, I got a call from a polite young man called Jacob. Jacob was conducting a phone survey for some acronym unknown to me: IMC? ISM?

I felt ever so sorry for the poor guy’s mission for having to a) work on a Sunday and b) ask a boring and no doubt repetitive set of questions about Christmas spirit in my household.

I must admit, I was also a bit reluctant about answering the following questions:
1) How many hours do you work in a week?
2) Are those hours outside or inside your household?
3) Do you live on your own?
I could envisage my flat being visited by the obliging Jacob and his good friends in the hours that I had duly told him I’d be away.

But I decided to believe that people are fundamentally good and answer his questions. How Gordon Brown’s future as a prime minister comes into the Xmas spirit equation, I don’t quite know. But I answered with my honest view on that and many other wooden topics.

He finally came to what made sense in the context: WHAT DOES CHRISTMAS MEAN TO YOU?

I don’t know about you, but I am winding down for Christmas already! There are a couple of weeks left to the 25th of December and a work trip in between, but I am already doing a lot of thinking about what tree decoration to get and where to put the tree. I think I’ll put it in front of the exercise bike, that way I don’t see it anymore ( the bike, not the tree). Christmas in my house is going to be about abolishing the guilt of no exercise.

I am also the referee of an internal struggle: part of me detests the over-commercialization of what is supposed to be a simple celebration with your loved ones. The other part says: go out and blow your December pay, that emotional moment of handing them what you always knew they wanted is priceless. To quote our sensitive friends at Mastercard. The conclusion? I’ll limit those that I’m getting presents for to a handful of lucky ones.

Now, the other thought going through my mind in the run-up to X-mas is the dreaded (?) drawing of the line. Another year is about to end, so what have I achieved, what have I lost, what would I have liked to change and is still where it was in 2005? Cant help being reflective and a bit nostalgic. I am not going to get into details ( “well, I was hoping for a new such and such, but it didn’t happen…”). No. I’ll just let you reflect on your own issues.

Lastly, Christmas is about food! Cooked food, bought food, food shared by your neighbours. I am planning on indulging on a culinary excursion of no precedent. My parents are coming to visit and I am going to treat them like kings. Not a day will go by without them trying out something new. It’s all planned!

I wish there were some snow in the London Xmas combo, but I guess with global warming and all, the chances of that happening are ever so slim.

This is it really, no big story today. Just a few things that Jacob didn’t have time to listen to…

I wish you all a lovely time over the winter holidays!

PS I’ll probably be back here with a new post this week, but what’s wrong with an early start on good wishes?

December 6, 2006

Silly Story on a Wednesday (again)

Filed under: Funny stuff — B @ 6:24 pm

The following conversation has just been sparked up in the office.  As you can see, we are a very busy bunch… It did make me laugh, though.   Apparently, should one decide to pursue a certain type of acting career, one that wouldn’t necessarily make one’s parents proud, the stage name is traditionally a combination of the following:  

Your first ever pet’s name + your mother’s maiden name  Mine would be CIPI MINTILESCU.  We also had Spartacus Lumberjack and Twiggy Winkle.  What would yours be? ;0)

Spacca Napoli

Filed under: B recommends — B @ 1:15 pm

I have recently discovered this great Italian restaurant called SPACCA NAPOLI.  Last time I went, Brian May had just finished his dinner there .  If it’s good enough for Brian, it’s good enough for me.  Seriously, do go if you like Italian food. http://www.london-eating.co.uk/6801.htm 

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November 29, 2006

(UN)LUCKY

Filed under: Funny stuff — B @ 10:57 pm

HIM (on the phone on a Friday afternoon, with a cheeky tone in his voice) : Hello you, I have a surprise for you later on this afternoon!

HER (trying to suppress the hallelujah! coming up in full force from her lungs): Oh, really? Come on, what it is?

Who is he fooling? She already knows. All the ingredients are there: two happy-ish years together, mutual urge to settle down and have an army of kids. I mean, just like “those boots are made for walking” her hips are made for, well, pushing…. And it’s not like it had not been discussed recently…

HIM: What are you wearing today?

HER: You know, the grey t-shirt and a denim skirt. Darn, she should have made more of an effort on that Friday. Her mum was so right when stating that she was letting herself go…

HIM: OK, that’s cool, I’ll meet you at home after work.

HER: Not in town? Somewhere like Waterloo perhaps? She wanted to show him how intuitive she was without spoiling his surprise. But a trip to Paris had been on the agenda.

HIM: Waterloo? Why? No, just come home and we’ll take it from there.

HER: (muttering to herself) Ok, you are making it harder for me. How sweet! Ok, darling, I shall see you later then.

HIM: Bye!

HER ( to anyone at work who agreed to be her audience on a hot Friday afternoon full of the promise of a great weekend): HE has just called to tell me he had a surprise for me.

THEM ( guessing collectively): What could it be? A trip somewhere? Dinner out? You must tell all on Monday!

A few hours later.

HIM: Hello, just give me 5 minutes and we go.

HER: Go where?

HIM: You’ll see.

Oh, how she learnt a lesson that day. To never assume anything at all! And to try and keep such things under wrap. Talking about “the surprise” before it happened can often have one fatal merit: that of highlighting the ridicule of admitting it all later on…

They got into his car, with him looking mildly excited and not secretive enough , she thought; SHE was beginning to realize she was possibly on the wrong path. But nothing could have prepared her for what came next.

HE drove her 5 minutes away into the neighboring area that will always keep the price of her flat down… It sounds like the surname of a very rich footballer married to and ex Spice Girl, but rich it ain’t! He went and knocked on the door of a sad looking council estate. Nothing. And then he knocked again. A few knocks later this kind-looking half-deaf 98 year old (or close) lady comes out followed by an obese stray-looking dog, with obvious rheumatism symptoms.

SHE was in a state of shock and confusion. What on earth? (let’s stick to suggestive euphemisms…) Who is this? What is THAT??

THAT was most likely the ugliest looking dog on earth. With a lovely friendly and obliging personality, to be fair on him. His name was Lucky, which made his reality even more pathetic: heavily overweight, half blind, with heart problems and serious joint aches, that dog was not something SHE’d envisaged at the end of HER leish… Surprising it was, indeed! HE had basically picked up on HER passion for dogs and had contacted their local animal charity. To see how HE could involve HER with looking after a dog, without the dog actually moving in with them. Clever, eh? The charity matched HIM with Lucky and the rest flowed naturally. HIM, HER and Lucky ended up on a couple of visits to the park where Lucky would sit down with a wise look upon his tired face watching THEM run around playing badminton. A bit of a role reversal, don’t you think? Lucky didn’t even bother to fetch the shuttlecock ( now this word DOES exist, so no smirking, please!)

Gosh, and how the blokes at the local pubs laughed when THEY struggled to lift poor Lucky into the car!

Conclusion: No Paris, no middle-class heaven prospects, no 2.5 kids in the pipeline, so to speak. SHE had to move on. HIS was a carefree attitude that would have been carried through many a such confusion so SHE eventually gave up. But SHE does have a giggle every now and then over that story…

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